Calming and Peaceful Insights for Stressed Nurses and Caregivers

Spring cleaning change your thoughts as well as your environment

It will be officially spring in a few days, the thoughts of spring cleaning and reorganizing for warmer weather is apparent.

When I way young and living in the north east, during spring cleaning time my mom and I would change the curtains and draperies all over the house, and even move some furniture around. My dad know that a few Saturday’s would be taken up with redecorating, and being good natured would laugh about how change was good. He was glad to see my mom happy and creative.

During your spring cleaning time consider while you are changing curtains, linens or cleaning out the closets, the changing of your thoughts and perspective of why you are stressed. Consider changing from a reacting person to the calmer responsive person you are by nature. We all were not born stressed and overwhelmed, we absorbed it and learned it.

So take time to spring clean your mind and start eating a bit healthier to relax the total you.

Stressed: What are you Covering Up??

There are many times when we are hurrying to get things done because we have ‘double booked’ ourselves. We get stressed because we find ourselves in a time crunch. These are also the times when we do not ask for help.

What is our reasons for not asking?

Do you think no one but you can do the task ‘right’? Have you organized the task in such a way that extra hands could mess it up?

You can see that these reasons ‘cover up’ your desire to be in control. Some flexibility on your part could decrease your stress level a lot!

Also this gives some one else a chance to be creative or perhaps even learn something new.

Sometimes you may wait until the last minute to finish a task or project, then you rush through the process. People will do this then they have limited knowledge of a project. Covering up the fact they don’t know what they are doing.

A bit of planning and perhaps honesty in the beginning would have eliminated the stress altogether for you and for others. Take this last incident and learn from it and resolve to more forward. Not getting yourself in that situation again. Only take on projects you are confident to finish on time. If you are one who wants to have to ‘completive edge’ then you better darn well get education and research before your even consider a challenging project. Calm, relaxed confidence will get your further then stressed overwhelm and excuses.

Stress as an Indentity, a type of Identity theft , you steal from yourself.

How do your define you, what words do you use?

Have you caught your self identifying with Stress?

Have you said” I’m stressed“. Or “I can’t deal with all this Stress”. Or “Look what stress is doing to me”!!

Are you really going to list “stressed” as a characteristic on your résumé?

When you look at the definition of stress you will see that it means pressure or force. A very appropriate definition of our lifestyles. But please also note that when engineers do stress tests on buildings they are looking for weak points. Areas that do not meet the code standards for good construction. So my friend stress can also mean VULNERABLIITY. WOW, now there is a concept. Scary isn’t it!

A very promising way to motivate yourself to stop allowing stress to control you is to REPLACE the word stress with vulnerable in your conversations and your thinking. You want to stay strong and healthy so lets learn to get calm and relaxed. There is empowerment in that.

Has Stress Taken Intimacy Out of your Life?

Sex was thought to be a great stress reliever. Increasing our endorphins’ and helping to relieve minor aches and pains, too. Our 21^st century stress us very difficult to relieve quickly and much more complex then every twenty five years ago. Even a 21 year old male will have some performance issues from time to time. So, with that in mind consider the 30 year old couple, just finding the time and energy for intimacy. This can be a chore and spontaneity is a lost luxury.

How do you increase your intimacy and enjoy sex more while decreasing your stress levels?

Remember to get into the stress conditions you are now in, took quite some time. You can’t expect instant reversal.

Like any good habit stress-free sex or calm sex takes some effort. The great side is it is a lot of fun.

Remember what foreplay was? Yes, dust off the ideas from the back of your brain and think.

Communicate with your partner/spouse in advance. The planning phase is fun in itself. Plan to send sexy suggestive text messages- create code words and nick names for each other as well. (I’m not going into phone sex here! Perhaps in an other article. ) Leave notes for each other around the house as well. This subtle verbal foreplay sparks the imagination and arouses the senses, too.

By thinking with the attitude of a 20 year old couple the 30 or 40 or even 50 year old couples will focus on pleasure and not on the every day stresses.

Keep your words and ideas relaxed and calming. You will find that after some calm relaxed intimate encounters with your spouse/ partner you’ll find your stress levels decrease considerably.

The calming habit will grow, you will find that his performance will be better and sustained. While your response time and intensity will be quicker and stronger.

Just finished mixing up some aromatherapy oils and body butters for a report and class that I'm teaching. My report will be sent out to all.

one must understand stress never takes a holiday or a day off. stress is the origin of most diseases and emotional problems. calm is easy!!!

I'm trying to be more self disiplined, writing an article, a newsletter and drafting a blog entry. only have 5 hours to work in the evenings