Calming and Peaceful Insights for Stressed Nurses and Caregivers

Calming Capules # 15 Sharing your Talents

Find out what you don’t do well, then don’t do it. The calm alternative is to leverage others.

 Find people that play at what you consider work. Share talents and gifts with others. This is called Masterminding.

You will find that other people really do appreciate using their talents to help you. You all will attract positive vibrations into your lives.

Calming Capsule # 14

Do not let work take over you life.

People called workaholics expend all their energy to there job or work and have little left for themselves and others. By thinking in moderation one can get the work done and still have time and energy for yourself.

This will save your life, you know.

You have heard the phrase 'burning the candle at both ends'. Once the flame gets to the center the candle is no more. Workaholic type stress is a dis-ease that will harm your body as well as your mind.

Calming Capsule # 12.5 Feeling Good

Work, play, play, play , work, play , play, play, work, play , play, play, etc.

Remember here what the money is for! You can pay bills and prioritize, but you have to make time and money available for play and fun too.

Think about the ways you can play! It is okay to allow your inner child to come to the surface. Do this several times a week at first and you will find you are more relaxed and you really feel good!!

Calming Capsule # 12 Living on Purpose

The purpose of life is a life of purpose.

You can call it Dharma or your life’s vision, when you resolve to be part of the solution instead of the problem, you are on purpose.

So many people say" I don't know what I'm doing." Or they say " What is my goals"? When you get quiet and go inside yourself, you will find  what really makes you feel good. This is your purpose. Allowing is the difficult part.

Calming Capsule #11 Silence

Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute.

Gandhi used this concept while seeking freedom for his country.

You can do this when dealing with your teenagers or spouse. Perhaps the sheer shock of the silence will resolve the issue.

Silence is not giving in. You allow yourself precious time to think and later respond to the experience.Take some time today to think of other ways you can use silence to bring calmness into your life.

Relaxed People can be Super Achievers

Let go of the idea that gentle, relaxed people can’t be super achievers!

From where I am, in the present moment, I have noticed one of the major reasons so many people choose to remain hurried, frightened, competitive, stressed and continuing to live life in crisis mode, their fear that if they were to become more peaceful, relaxed and calm, they would suddenly achieving their goals. They would become lazy and apathetic.

I am here to tell you to put this fear out of your mind completely, by realizing that the total opposite is true. Fearful, stressed, frantic , anxious thinking takes an enormous amount of living energy and drains the precious creativity, motivation and imagination from your life.

You see when you are stressed, fearful, or frantic, you literally paralyze yourself from using your ultimate gifts, your greatest potential, not to mention pleasures and enjoyments. Any success that you might have is very short lived and is despite your fear, not because of it!

I challenge myself to seek out the very relaxed, peaceful and calm people, and surround myself with them. They are my friends, mentors and business associates. Some of these people are martial arts masters, life coaches, CEO’s of companies, both women and men. All of them are gratefully fulfilled in that they do and very proficient and profitable in their gifts and skills and talents.

You too have the ability to be calm yet passionate and purpose driven. A much more pleasing live awaits yu when you do!

Stressful Multitasking- It is Better to do One Thing at a Time.

I was driving to work the other day on the freeway, the traffic was the usual Monday morning stop and go. Granted you had the time to say change the channel on your radio or slip in a different CD to listen to perhaps, but multitask, I don’t think so!!

Well, just because I drive a standard six speed car, which means I have a lot of clutch and shifting action going on, I usually can enjoy a sip or two of coffee from my travel mug, and change the radio channels.

On this particular morning I noticed a man in the lane next to me, he was shaving and talking on his cell phone at the same time as driving, yes, and probably steering with his knees.

“Perfect” I thought a great topic for an up coming blog, about the stress of our frenzied society. I was just a little bit concerned because he just shifted the phone to the other side and started the shave the other side of his face. At least he was not looking in the mirror. I did focus my thoughts on my own driving and hoped he had a good safe day.

My point of this story is that not planning your time and trying to do more than one thing at a time during some rather special focusing moments, can be stressful for yourself and for others around you.

Labor Day Holiday- Give Yourself a Holiday by Self-Nurturing, Laboring is Stressful.

We normally celebrate Labor Day to recognize those who labor and work all year. Which of course is our holiday to rest, relax and self-nurture. We tend to fill the day with family events, picnics and end of summer activities. Where is the self-nurturing? You could say, being with family and friends is nurturing, this is true but are you relaxed or are you actively caring for others?

Self-nurturing is getting away by yourself. Take that walk in the woods, alone with the dog. Sitting  under the tree with a favorite book to read. Enjoy nature, that is part of nurturing your self, you can stop and smell the flowers, touch the grass and the leaves. Self-nurturing makes you feel good. You deserve this self-nurturing, labor free holiday.

The Need to Fix or Weatherproof People Only Adds to Your Stress

As women, nurses, and nurtures we tend to want to fix everyone. Patient’s who’s lives are broken by disease and illness. Family and friends, we see who’s lives are less than perfect we want to fix. And of course ourselves, each new wrinkle, extra pound or unqualified fact that led to a wrong decision. We want to fix and make perfect.

The concept of weatherproofing as it applies to a calm and more peaceful lifestyle of course is a metaphor, to explain one of our stressful ungrateful tendencies.

So lets think about this, just as we can weatherproof a home for winter or summer, by looking for cracks , leaks and obvious imperfections’, we also weatherproof our relationships , even our lives.

Simplistically, weatherproofing means that you are always on the look out for whatever needs to be fixed, repaired or changed in life. We are constantly stress our selves by trying to find the cracks and flaws of life, and either trying to fix them or worse point then out to others. The real stress here is not only does this tendency alienate you from friends, family and others but on a greater scale makes you feel very bad as well. It also makes you dwell on negative stuff and all you do there is attract more negative stuff back to you , adding even more stress.

　

Instead of trying to weatherproof other people or fix them, the calmer, more peaceful way is to enjoy them for their differences or quirks, what possibly attracted your to them in the first place. This gives life variety, relaxed meaning and of course diversity. You see a more relaxed life is never boring.

A New Season to Reduce Stress and Build Calming Memories

As the summer draws to a close and the school season and

the cooler weather is upon us. Instead of enjoying this time

we over book ourselves and stress over not having enough

time.

Time should be our friend not an enemy. Time does seem to

flow slower when we are more relaxed and calmer. So why

do we put ourselves through this? It could be just a habit or

an escape, but most likely it is trying to do too much and

being everything to everyone. Do you see where YOU are

left out of this story? You have the right to control how you

use your time and energies. When you feel like you are

spinning your wheels, you are! So get a GRIP.

Now enjoy the cooler weather and relax with a hot cup of

tea or cocoa and start thinking of building autumn

memories.